RC’s Basic Theory is laid down in The Human Side of Human Beings. It was very well put and reprinted dozens of times. It was exp ended on in a dozen or so hefty books by Harvey, which were basically articles from Present Time, which were often transcripts from lectures at workshops. The Theory must have been pretty solid to be able to carry so many deep additions. But one time, after 30 years, Harvey announced an adjustment of the fundamentals of his fundamentals. It was a small correction but a correction nonetheless and a meaningful one at that.
The old Theory said that when we had “too much” distress, our thinking would slow down or get distorted until we had discharged “enough.”
The correction said that nothing obscures our fresh thinking but an often unaware but nevertheless deliberate attempt to restimulate some old distress recordings and dramatize some of them all the times in the hope to receive help to discharge it all now.
We only had to decide to stay in the present and postpone “the session of our life” to a more conducive setting, in order to function rationally and flexibly. We were no victims anymore. We only had a “bad habit” to pay attention to our old distresses all the time.
It is my impression that he said the old thing so many times and that we heard and said it so often ourselves, that the correction didn’t really stick. It was written but not really absorbed or put to use enough.
Or maybe (also) this change in Theory got eclipsed by another novelty that followed three years later. That revision was more a change in practice. Harvey then proposed to make all direction that we suggest to clients to reflect the Benign Reality, to focus away from distress. (See here.)
Examples
I’ll give you an example. The Commitment to break the habit to pay attention to our old distresses begin with the words “It is logically possible and certainly desirable to end this ancient habit-pattern of paying attention to my old distresses all the time and substitute for it a new attitude of paying attention to interesting concerns.”
The old idea of “I couldn’t do any better because I was restimulated” became “I couldn’t do any better because I have this old habit to not pay attention to the present.” Not really a change. The real truth is that, as soon as I decide to not pay attention to the old junk, there is no habit.
There is nothing holding us back to be our best self but a bad choice right now to prioritize getting a good session. Just decide to not do that right now. Look, listen, feel, smell, taste and smile. I’m the right person in the right spot at the right time to make a difference in the universe.
Likewise, one Commitment begins “Since thinking is necessarily fresh thinking, I hereby decide that I will never again let any distress from the past influence the way I act in the present or future.” But distress from the past never influences what we do or don’t. We give it that voice – or not.
Another example. Three years after revising the Theory, but reprinted in a 2018 Present Time, Harvey said “If a human being has been hurt in an area where she was formerly very wise and skillful and flexible, and not been allowed to get rid of the hurt, she will, from then on, be compulsive, unintelligent, and often destructive.” The old Theory all over again.
It should read: “If a human being has been hurt in an area where she was formerly very wise and skillful and flexible, and not been allowed to get rid of the hurt, she will, from then on, usually choose, day in day out, to be compulsive, unintelligent, and often destructive in the hope to get help to discharge.”
We are never restimulated – we chose to restimulate old hurt. No one could make us angry – we angered ourselves. Etc.
Same 2018 Present Time quoting Harvey from 1981: “human beings do no evil … except in the grip of distress patterns that were put on them from the outside.” This putting the blame outside of us helped to understand our innocence but now we know for 35 years that we intend no evil when we freely choose to follow a distress pattern.
The same with “I now decide to deny past distress any credibility in the present, any influence, or any operation in my life. And I will repeat this decision as often as necessary to free my life completely from the influence of past distress.” We are free already.
And “I will never again act on any of the distortions that my distresses have tended to impose on my thinking.” We impose on ourselves only.
One last example from the newest Theory (2018). “We have been forced into the role of supporting the exploitation …. We’re not to blame for the distresses that have been inflicted on us . … take responsibility not to let them play themselves out.” Rather, it is us who chose our chronic patterns back then – as the best strategy to live with so much distress – and are unconsciously but deliberately dramatizing them every second, hoping to get a session on them. We – not our patterns – confuse ourselves, we don’t notice and don’t remember, we make ourselves feel guilty – etc. We may acknowledge this, not to assign blame or in order to become worthy of revenge or punishment. It’s the best we’ve been able to act so far and we should not feel bad about doing our best. But we can take responsibility for trying to improve from now on.
A Chronic Pattern is thus not a habit but a repetitive choice, to act and feel like that. As soon as we stop that, the “Chronic Pattern” is gone. (If we don’t keep deciding against it, it will be back the next second. But not because it “is” there but because we put it there in the new moment.)
Re-framing Early Powerlessness as an Untrue Recording
We were never victims who got overpowered and defeated. We only told ourselves, not to feel guilty. But in fact, we recorded our distress and pretended to give up, only to get back to it later. An example.
Recently, I counseled someone who told me about a very early memory of her giving up, as she described it. “There was no support, everyone wanted me to surrender, so I gave in and became docile – so much so that everyone noticed.”
I asked her how the following re-framing would sit with her. “There was no support. Therefore, I made a strategic decision to create a pattern, elegantly absorbing and symbolizing all the details of any hurt of this type that I ever would encounter. Then, I would ignore this pattern and the underlying detail. But meanwhile, I would still constantly repeat the distress for everyone to see. Others so could tell me when there would be attention and safety to give me a hand. Here’s my hand.”
She found this fresh way to put it empowering. Maybe you like it too.
So we never gave up, though we may have included such distressed thoughts into the recording. Rather, we made a strategic decision to postpone dealing with this. This jives with our awe for the human brain.
In any case, this way to describe it, is confirm RC Basic Theory for decades already. Saying that we were overpowered or have been made restimulated may be the literal content of a pattern but is inconsistent with RC Basic Theory that teaches that we choose and are in charge all the time – and also disagrees with the best picture we now have of the Benign Reality.