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July 12, 2019 will be the 20th anniversary of Harvey’s death. I hope that our work for a better life for us and all humans in the 20th year would do him honor.

History: We Were Only Allowed to Lead RC Anti-Racism if …

Stories about RC in the olden days can be informative to RCers less years around and also do justice to past work that we stand on today.

There was a time that almost all RCers were White (Caucasian). Then we were advised to all work on our earliest memories connected to racism. And no one was allowed to lead an event (evening, support group, workshop) on discharging racism unless the majority of one’s friends was non-Caucasian. That was a frustrating but great idea. Those were the days!

So, in order to make progress here, we had to make non-White friends, get out of our White bubble (isolation) and that would give us plenty of stuff to discharge on more.

These were the stages I went through.

A. What Racism, What Non-Whites?

I was hardly aware of racism. And I assumed that “being against it” sufficed. And non-Whites did not seem around. Until I started discharging. Then I suddenly remember a teacher who was not White. And then another one. And how strange grownups reacted to them.

I decided to be in a topic group against racism at every workshop and to counsel on it for an hour every week, saying: it’s not a lot but it’s still something.

B. Guilt, Guilt, Guilt

It was so hard to think at all when guilt was everywhere in your head.

The best way was to discharge on early memories and to set a goal at the end of the session for one action against racism. Preferably a small attainable goal. If you didn’t succeed in your goal, you did not get punished or were not frowned-up. But if you did succeed in any way (for instance, you remembered your goal), you had something good to use for discharge in the next session.

Besides working on early memories, celebrating (Hurray, hurray!) fresh successes were another successful way to discharge. And fresh failure was also easy to discharge on.

C. Becoming More Experienced

Slowly, it dawned on us that we didn’t need to hide our racism as non-Whites could smell it a mile away. We started interrupting racist remarks (another success to report on in our sessions). We did not attack Whites making racist remarks or “jokes” but rather tried to win them over to join anti-racism.

D. Leading, Finally

It was a great moment when I concluded that I was spending most of my time with friends with non-Whites. I could start leading groups.

I was already doing many sessions with other Caucasians about racism. And with a leader who had a non-White partner. (That surely helps being motivated to work on this stuff.)

E. Racism Hurts the Oppressor Too

It became clear to me that while racism hurts, maims and kills non-Whites, in terms of distress recordings, White children got a really bad deal too. That we, from a very young age, feel deeply ashamed of the racism from White grownups who raise us (including the uneasiness of those who preached against racism). That’s a very lonely life!

Whites, first of all, do a favor to themselves being serious about being an ally to non-Whites, to get rid of their racism and deep loneliness. And to reconnect to how good we are for not wanting anything to do with racism.

F. Mixed Blessings

I noticed something special in my regular co-counselors who had a mixed ethnic background: one non-White and one White parent. They had “regular” internalized White racism combined with very strong feelings against non-Whites including themselves. The put-downs from their White parent had hit harder than from strangers. I checked with other mixed-background counselors. Same story.

G. Are Whites Oppressed?

Then I led a Regional RC workshop for Whites exploring if Whites are oppressed. (This was 10 years before Harvey asked the question. Can you be bragging if you just state what happened and you worked hard for it?)

We tried a direction like “I promise to be completely close to my White family” and me saying to my client “I will never distance myself from you” – something like that. Tons of discharge.

Racism doesn’t only isolate Whites from non-Whites, it isolates Whites from each other and themselves!

My Chinese friend liked my hope that Whites only needed to reconnect to each other and then would automatically stop being racist. It was a nice over-simplified dream.

I would say now, White young people certainly are oppressed, not as Whites but certainly as White young people (See HERE).

H. It Passes on

It became so important in my life that I would not marry a “racist.” And I didn’t. That also helped my children to have close friends (and partners) of every ethnicity.

Your Opposite Backgrounds Don’t Cancel Out!

In daily life and most people would like you to label yourself clearly. Once you’re pigeon-holed, you can be handled with ease.

However, we sometimes self-identify (not to please or ease others but to help us feel at home, safe and move on) with identities that are more-or-less opposites.

• I’m owning class and non-White.

Your class position doesn’t cancel out the supremacy racism and your ethnic background doesn’t undo your elite class position. You discharge on both liberations (internalized oppression and oppressor patterns).

• I lived a heterosexual life, had a heterosexual identity and then I fell in love with another woman and now call myself lesbian.

So what are you? You’re probably a (formerly) heterosexual woman and a lesbian. You might also call yourself a bisexual but not just to escape the shame attached to both other identities (of being in the heterosexual oppressor position and of being queer).

• I grew up poor. I’m now pretty well-to-do.

You could call yourself upwardly-mobile but don’t let your growing-up-poor working-class background negate your middle-class or successfully working-class background to escape the shame (of having no money respectively of having money). Both positions made your life richer (pardon the pun).

• I lived as a thief but then I became thoroughly honest.

You could call yourself just a repentant but you have properties from both lifestyles. Don’t deny any of it, just to escape the shame. As a thief, you may have learned good things. (How stressful it was. How to spot a dishonest person.) And now, you may be more honest than most people. Don’t bury any of it.

• As a young person I was a shorty but now I’m towering.

Both identities are important. Discharge about both of them.

• I worked myself almost to death but now I’m old and redundant.

Don’t just talk about the present oppression of being written-off. How was it to have been forced to work so hard?

You get my drift. Does this apply to you or your counselors too? Is this obvious to you or did you think something new, reading this?

To hell with puzzled stares of others. Reclaim all your identities!

Decide to Become Active, Not Just Reactive

It’s a nice idea that, once we re-evaluated and cleaned up enough old distress, we will have better memories, have a more flexible brain and will look more freshly at the future – and therefore we will be more active in bringing about a better world for all. But the latter point is doubtful. Maybe eventually, we’ll start help improving the world for all, but if we wait for this spontaneous change, in most people it could take very long. Better is to take decisions “before we feel ready.”

Being Reactive

Reacting is a lower life form. Even viruses and bacteria react. Even lifeless objects, like billiard balls, react to changes that affect them.

This is not to say that reacting is unimportant. You are crossing the street and a car is approaching – you better make sure you stay safe. You have an important test – you better learn. Don’t ignore reality.

I was having a bite at a quick-and-dirty. (It was actually not dirty.) Someone came over and asked  me: Would you buy me a small meat meal? I said: sure (although I’m a vegetarian). Later he asked: Could I also have a drink? I said: Anything you want (although I never drink soda myself; he had a coke). I just reacted – it was easy.

The biggest disasters happen because people fail to react. Wars can only happen when m ost people look away. The Holocaust is also caused by millions of silent bystanders (and governments and media that didn’t report what was going on). The serial abuser was often believed that it was a one-off thing and so could become serial.

We know from our sessions how much unnecessary distress and oppression was in the world and still is. And it seems profitable to all people to stop this pandemic of irrationality. We surely don’t want to wait until all people got enough sessions to stop the misery. And after a couple of sessions, we can also know that we are the best persons available to help clean up the mess.

Be Active Too

But good as reacting is, acting is better. And someone who is active will certainly be reactive – and not let indifference, inaction and apathy allow oppression to take place unchallenged.

Waiting until we’re ready is going to be a slow process. Deciding is faster. Let’s do ourselves a favor and take a few sessions on “I’ve decided to become active.”

And I don’t just mean that we should all go save the planet – though I wouldn’t object if everyone did so. It could be too: I’ve had enough eating junk food and snacking – I’m going to have proper food only. Or will start exercising. (See Harvey’s Commitment for “World changers.”)

Let’s not just sit around waiting for when the news or the spirit grabs us. We don’t need anything from outside of us anymore and no one needs to tell us, to go do something.

In the times that an atomic world war, nuclear holocaust, was looming – may those times never return – one slogan was: Better active today than radioactive tomorrow. It’s not always easy to become active. We sometimes seem to need a lot of motivation.

But what also may help is an awareness that we simply can be active, that we’re invited to become activists, that life is better fighting for an ideal than just riding out the ride, that we are most ourselves when we do.

To choose change. To do a few sessions to decide to become active in wide world change. To stop just reacting to the news but rather join the troops of idealists forever, always on the lookout where to chip in.

Not just to react when our response is needed in emergencies. We can make a difference before the shit hits the fan.

Even radioactive substance shows spontaneity (but not free will). We have the ability to initiate. To spontaneously say: I have enough of this, I’ve seen enough, I have a thought.

Participants in groups often just sit around and wait, react to what is offered. TV culture. But when called into leadership, we suddenly emerge as initiators, begin to think about what we could do and say.

(Leaders are often not more talented, wiser or smarter. Rather, they got the idea or the job to take initiative. When we take the job, we also get ideas. As soon as we try to think about something, we’ll have thoughts.)

Humans can brainstorm, jump linear thinking. We have an ability to foresee the time after now and imagine improvement – and work for it.

Not because we should. Not to avoid punishment or condemnation. Not because otherwise we won’t be a good person or it will be all our fault.

Rather, we may become activists for a better world for all because that is the best expression of who we are. Being an activist is the best life.

Love Thy Enemy as Thyself

I heard that Cherie Brown, many decades ago, advocated learning to love people while they still have all their distress in place. Not just to say: Once they’re less distressed, I’ll like them.

You don’t throw out your shoes when some mud got stuck to them.

We want someone (our partner) to change? They couldn’t. But what they can do is to become themselves again. When we love them, they have exactly what it takes to free themselves from old distress. But, when we want them charged, even a little, all they hear is “you don’t love me” and are stuck. So, let’s love them with all they have. Paradoxically, when we love them as they are, they will “change.” When we want them changed, they are stuck.

To forgive people who hurt us – it is said a lot – we can do to free ourselves – from anger, resentment, revenge. Hate may be better than self-hate but we’re still stuck in hatred – a world of violence. (Forgiveness for some of us might be premature when the hurt is still fresh.)

What about more distant people?

Most of us know people we “absolutely” “simply” can’t stand. What do we need to discharge to love them, feel for them, give them a hand, be generous toward them so that we humbly can “be an environment in which healing can take place” (Ram Dass) so that the moment they see us or hear from us, they’ll start discharging effectively, feeling that they are with a friend, someone to trust?

As long as we are antagonistic, they will just hate us back. Then they also can’t stand “people like us.” But more than we could hate their distress recordings, they’d love to get rid of them. Let’s be their allies!

To dislike them, we must feel superior to them. We must think that we are nicer or more proper or more moral or more intelligent – whatever we fancy, not to identify with them and prefer ourselves over them. We need to remember that no one was born to please us, give us a better (a more comfortable) life, to be there just for our good. That means that when we hate, we must work on humbleness more and our integrity.

We don’t have to endanger ourselves to dangerous recordings, but when we’re safe, we can try to get rid of our greatest powerlessness vis- à-vis others. And when we can deal with such people, we can deal with anyone. Getting closer to one person improves all our relationships.

We should not ignore violent patterns. But we should also make a distinction between the person and the pattern. That is fundamental to RC. We can’t expect to be involved in bettering humanity if we only want to be close to certain people. Harvey was everyone’s ally. So can we be.

Big Shout-Out to Diane Shisk

It is not true that all leaders have good sessions. Harvey for years, notoriously and to his chagrin had to mention that his clienting was not so successful. (Less experienced counselors too easily project what they need to discharge about unto their leaders. And then, they don’t think about what the leader needs.) Asking groups you lead to counsel you can help. It’s also a nice way to repay the leader for the effort. (HERE are some hopefully helpful hints how to counsel our leaders better.)

I also have seen leaders who are bad clients. Although every client always does the best s/he can, we can still as clients choose to try and help our counselor, not help our counselor or even trouble our counselor. Intimidating our counselors, criticizing them, telling them to shut up, are some of the ways even experienced clients may act. Which, of course, makes their sessions shallow and their progress slow.

I’m relating this to say: it’s not a given that an experienced RC leader has great sessions. Therefore, I want to applaud Diane for being our example of making sure she has effective sessions. How does that show? Well, one Present Times she writes that she is way too hopeless and anxious to lead environmental change and the next Present Time she pens what we need to know, what we need to counsel about and what we need to do to save the planet. In other words: she saw her challenge and took it.

(This validation is only for Diane, not an oblique criticism on other RCers.)

Integrity Campaign

It is extremely hard to tackle deep untruthfulness patterns. A little dishonesty often melts in front of a friendly face. Most people can’t help saying what bothers their conscience, discharge, and they’re on their way to freedom and honesty. But people who were not privileged to have anyone around them who was at all trustworthy from before the time they could talk, how to help them get rid of that isolation?

They know how to playact. They know how to hide. They see two kinds of people – those who also won’t show their weak spots and – as they see it – the idiots. They won’t tell anyone they regard as naive or weak. But at the same time, the courage of “weak people” fascinates but also abhors them. But confide in anyone – you must be kidding.

This is a real problem in the world so we must deal with it. More urgently even because we have also counseling leaders who have this chronic pattern. They deserve to be set free – although at first, they may not readily applaud such. But their lack of truthfulness hampers RC.

The best of RC may in fact contribute to the problem because we try to act as if we have no distress recordings in order to help us discharge them. That, of course, can be confused with pretense and secrecy. (Some people I met (farmers, Russians) will not pretend so easily. Every time they take a direction (smile while not feeling happy), they feel like cheaters.) Harvey called integrity the first (!) quality needed in a leader. But possibly, had a blind spot here. I’ve seen a bit too many leaders he appointed who were challenged in the candor area.

How to find out who are the people with such distress recordings of faking it all so that we could try to help them? One way is to look for people in the community with a golden integrity. They never get along with the fakes – and vice versa. Support the real and honest people to take leadership and notice who starts revolting – or flattering the powerful to have their recordings stay in power.

Another, more elegant solution would be if these people, so viciously treated when very young, would invite each other to climb out of this pit together. They recognize each other, so that would be easy. They were so brutally hurt by others that they decided then to rather kill than ever let anyone get emotionally close again. But they are still in their bunkers and someone needs to tell them that the war is over. What better way than to tell each other. They can come out, bask in the light and start recovery and enjoy being close to others finally, without any danger. They should be applauded for persistence and bravery. They may have to ask forgiveness from people they victimized as they were telling themselves that nice people around them just wanted to hurt them more. They could try to reach out to the honest people they pushed out of RC.

I have not much experience in counseling the chronically dishonest.  Best would be to give them an ultimatum: no more leadership until you come clean. They might still rather leave RC. Which is not what we want.

I remember one time in which I guessed to be meeting one abusive (they often also have abusive and power-holic patterns) counseling leader. Beforehand, I did long and deep sessions about how much I hated such patterns and how they had made me suffer so often. She did attend and I was going to try to counsel her.

I asked her with a beaming face for a mini. She agreed. You start, she said, much to my expectation. I counseled on something with a direction off of distress, something light, that made me cry and would confirm to her that I’m a meek lamb. Then it was her turn. I looked at her with all my love and she came with some fake sob story while avoiding eye contact. I made sure I did hardly anything – one doesn’t want to scare a control-freak. And then I said something like: Where do you find the strength? She cried so deeply and long. And I just sat there being pleased. At farewells, she mentioned to the group that I had worked miracles on her.

People with such pretender patterns often know how to cry on demand (and stop as if closing a faucet) but this was different. I had touched her very deeply.

Yet, as I expected, she did not call me to keep counseling her and set her free. Too bad! Although, maybe she was right. She was in no position to counsel me well – though she was a big leader and I was just an honest counselor.

As a community, we must become so truthful that these hidden people will escape their emotional prison by just looking at us. Ignoring this problem (because we were too naive to see it or felt too hopeless about it) has not made it go away. Let’s get to work!

Recognize and Contradict the Passive Quieting Agreeable Distress!

Dramatizing is the term we use for someone acting out their distress. The noise was a dramatization of her fear and when discharge started rolling, it melted away. We can tell that someone who is upset tries to get to discharge from the way they dramatize. We might even be able to tell this about ourselves.

By the way, I would like to suggest that we might have another reason for dramatizing than just (subconsciously) inviting others to give us a good session, attention so that we may discharge our distress – although that is a fine reason all by itself.

Maybe we also try to create more safety for ourselves when we dramatize. So, when our counselors are able to show us that they care about us, the drama should shop, is not needed anymore. When we are loud, we pretend to have power and that we can’t be stopped and then we can begin to discharge powerlessness and un-safety from the past.

Anyhow, I want to say that there might be a type of dramatization that we could overlook too easily. The “I won’t say anything” dramatization. An “I’m fine, don’t have any unmet needs right now.”

You know them. People who are always responsible (towards others but much less towards themselves – which is the essence of a Responsibility Recording). Those who are forever attentive to others, friendly, unassuming, generous.

Someone could be the life of the party or an eye-catching leader but still only because others need that. Forever serving.

Now, at first sight, they may look great. People who are calm quiet shy responsible friendly giving or at least not taking. May I suggest that this could be a dramatization too? Give them sessions too, as you would if they were feeling self-important, demanding attention, “overcome” with feelings, being loud or “bothering” others.

If they are a long time in RC and have done lots of sessions, offering them to dramatize wildly might not work for them anymore. But how about inviting them to be “irresponsible” for a moment or be “self-centered” or asking them, “What would you feel and wish if no one else and nothing needed your attention anymore?” or “How are you doing, deep down?” or “What was an early time in your life when being quiet seemed better than being noisy?” or “I had my turn – how about you?”

Counseling is not a tranquilizer, for making people quiet again. It’s for making us flourish, become more our true selves. All of us.

Don’t abandon the quiet ones! As Harvey said: while we were talking, they were thinking. Focus on them, listen to them. It will make RC safer for the Working Class – and probably everyone. And it will make true our commitment that became our One Point Program in RC: to help each other – not just the loud ones – recover our hidden intelligences.

Regaining Humbleness, What Took us so Long?

We’ve worked a lot on Pride. It’s crucial. But Arrogance is very different from Pride and we must do away with any pattern of superiority ASAP.

In the last presidential elections in the US, according to the polls, Clinton was as much hated as Trump (just by different people), by half of the electorate, which no doubt cost her the victory. I can see easily why. To me, she comes across as way too full of herself. No doubt, it’s hard to be a woman in national politics, but arrogance is not the solution. (This is not to blame her. Being a millionaire probably is also not very helpful.)

Since so many RCers live in the US and understand the importance of Wide World Change, two years before the next national elections, learning, teaching and spreading genuine humbleness is most urgent.

Pretense

Harvey created this beautiful commitment against pretense:

“I’m obviously completely inadequate and completely incapable to handle the challenges reality places before me. Fortunately or unfortunately, I happen to be the best person available.”

Memorize the text. Never leave home without it.

(The word “me” should be shrieked and be followed by a big sigh. Jews may add: Oy way. This first part should give most of the discharge. The tone should be as if one is the town’s fool. Don’t forget to take time to discharge on how that makes you feel.)

Let me add a text and some ideas. Nothing written in stone.

“I give up on all prestige and self-respect, which would ….”

Arrogance

(Not my text – just an illustration.)

Having been viciously humiliated by oppression is no excuse to hold on to arrogance. All arrogant people were.

“Better angry than depressed” might be good as a short-term solution in emergencies but not more than that.

Arrogance is camouflaged insecurity, fake self-importance. Someone who really feels secure will not act superior to anyone, will not try to make anyone else feel inferior. Arrogance is isolation. Arrogance is just a pattern.

Don’t attack people who carry arrogance patterns. Get close to them. Show them that you like them. Don’t flatter them which would strengthen their superiority recordings. Rather, just share that you like them. They may not immediately hold you in high esteem but they will never forget you.

Being Humble

A fear of humbleness is of course a fear that we’ll be seen as insignificant as we feel and would stay crushed. But one needs to have a notion of self-worth to feel humble. If we were really inferior, we could never be humble. We would just be worthless. Only those who’re humble show their worthiness and look impressive (though they may be overlooked by the haughty).

Hang out with humble people. Learn from them. Also why they are right to be humble. And how it makes a deep connection with most people.

See their greatness. See their pride. See their power. Power is with the meek masses, not with the puffed-up theorist.

Being Friendly

One more thing that surprisingly seems a non-issue in RC: friendliness. Most people outside of RC seem uninterested in if not outright wary of unfriendly people. With applying RC, people get more jolly, flexible and able to cooperate but friendliness doesn’t seem on the list.

Harvey supposed that bitchiness was just a passing phase between being beginning counselors who can’t speak up well for themselves yet and being not overwhelmed anymore with one’s own distresses. That’s a nice idea but not what I found. Generally, it starts but doesn’t pass.

I dislike in unfriendly people whom I meet their self-centeredness, their arrogance, their lack of generosity, their aggressiveness.

I understand a lack of interest in RC in politeness, which is often just a Classist excuse for not being frank. But that’s different from friendliness, no? Is being friendly not: I see you as not much different from me? That you’re approachable, interested in others, eager to be close, easy to talk to, open to negotiation. To me, that sounds a lot like humbleness.

And then there is friendly condescendingly talking down to people, which is not really friendly but rather fake. Friendly not taking someone seriously is being arrogant too.

We have collectively such important and urgent work to do, have so far been so insecure and disconnected despite all resources consumed, that we’d better shape up quickly and humble down as much as we can!

I’m not more important than anyone else

Towards a Clearer Vision Onto the Role of Men in Women’s Liberation

First of all, we should not have to go over all the points that men should pay attention to as Allies to women. Maybe just a few issues.

Men should listen, not argue and discharge about our feelings with men.

Men should take a direction of relaxed pride and reject guilt feelings based on the insight that men are not the problem. The real problems are internalized sexism in women, sexist patterns in men and institutionalized sexism in society. Men can choose to take pride and honor in helping a weighty problem getting solved.

Generally, oppressions target oppressed people most viciously, often taking their moneys, their healths and even lives. Yet, people put in the position where they can act as agents of the oppression and Allies to the oppressed, they often have more damaging distress recordings than the oppressed. They also have a harder job discharging them, both because of recordings of guilt and of confusion. Therefore, it suffices to be Allies because it fits us and will benefit us and our loved ones. We don’t need to “help” the oppressed from a position of (fake) superiority or pity.

After these general points, let’s say a little about male Allies to women.

Many White, heterosexual, Middle-Class men feel a need to be good Allies to the women in their lives. Yet, they have serious problems doing so elegantly, consistently and persistently. Some of the reasons are:

• Many of such well-meaning men are not finding counselors who can help them discharge well, fooled as they are by our facade of doing well.
• Many of them often feel isolated, numb (with as only escape: anger and sexual feelings), intimidated and confused.

Quite naturally, such men have been longing to client with women on these things which works well for too long for neither the women nor the men. The alternative to be stuck is not so hot either.

Maybe there is another obvious easy way, hiding in plain sight. There are many men who are unusual compared to most White, heterosexual, Middle-Class, cis-gender men because of ways they are oppressed themselves. The former could have the slack to coach the latter easily. Those are (I said, hiding in plain sight) non-White, non-heterosexual, Working-Class, transgender men. Let them lead Men as Allies.

What does it mean to let them lead? Give up being a know-it-all and control freak. Hand them the keys but stay close to support them. Ask for their thinking. Ask what they’d do next. And do as they suggest and ask them how they think it’s going.  Ask them to ask everyone what they think and to integrate it into one idea that would help everyone and tell everyone. Say that you don’t need them to be perfect. Smile at them. Let them discharge and tell them there’s plenty of time. Tell them of their brilliance and caring that you see them put into practice. Love them.

Now, at first thought, this may seem disingenuous. Having difficulty being Allies to women would be solved by being also Allies to non-Whites, non-heterosexuals, Blue-Collar Workers and transgenders? That seems more like complicating things than solving them. But on second thought, how far have we come trying to solve this as dominating White, heterosexual, Middle-Class, cis-gender men having little space for non-Whites, non-heterosexuals, Blue-Collar Workers, transgenders and ourselves? How could we further slowdown from being stuck already?

Bonus: Not only will this help us to end sexism, but also racism, homophobia, classism and transphobia. Try it. You’ll never look back.